Today, over the radio (these days I often listened to radio during my "long" journey to work due to jam) as I hardly has time to read the newspaper or watch the news on tv. Thus, making the best of my time stuck-in-the-jam by catching up on latest news and traffic condition from the radio station.
This morning, the deejays were discussing about "Why do people get married?"
Is it for formalization?
Is it for commitment?
Is it for security?
Is it for the parents?
Is it for love?
It reminds me of the question asked by KY last weekend:
KY: Mom, who do I get married with next time?
Mom: [Stop for few seconds] before answering, you'll marry someone who loves you, can take good care of you and someone you loved. You see daddy loves mommy or not? Does daddy takes good care of mommy? (purposely say it in front of daddy..lolx)
Mom: Yea, so you'll married someone like that in future.
KY: But how and where do I meet someone like that.
Mom: When you grow up, you'll meet up someone like that.
So, why do people get marry these days? Is it just for black and white paper legalization?
Some people opt the shortcut and easy way by cohabiting without going through the legal process.
Whereas in certain countries, people trying very hard to get the paper signed (as in same sex relationship if you know what I mean).
For me, I recalled clearly what an older friend once told me about the sacred thing about marriage.
As for Chinese, we would have not only the paper signing, but the most important is the prayer to Heaven & Earth and then the tea ceremony to our parents and senior relatives. It signifies the vow we made to be husband & wife in from of God and witnessed by our elders/seniors.
Thus people say, marriage is not about two people, but two families, may i add here then it also involves Heaven & Earth. Thus, marriage is a sacred union ;)
I do hope KY would read this in future as she found herself someone worthy of her love :)