Is it good to make decision while in ANGER?

Dear folks,

I think most of us would have thought or even heard that it's good to keep silent(don't mouth any words)
and DON'T even make decisions while we are being ANGRY mode as we might make decisions which
we may REGRET later on? That's what I would totally agree with if not what I heard over the 988 radio station
on Wed afternoon.....

Read on..

A research has shown that..on contrary making decision when someone in ANGRY mode actually is a good
one for those who are often indecisive. As it makes them focus on what's really important and really what's they
truly feel inside. It makes them make a harsh, prompt yet timely decision instead of the normal dilly-dally or
over-analyzing and thus missing out on the opportunity or even making not a TRULY REFLECTING what they truly
WANT and FEEL like deciding to do.

How KNOCKED-OVER I am after hearing it...I for one is truly one who can be real indecisive for one....most of my
GOOD and OVERWHELMING decisions are made when I am being CORNERED, ANGERED or FRUSTRATED!!!

Ha..ha..so now..it does have a logic in it...BUT I would think it might not work for those who are decisive...my DH for
once is someone totally opposite with me..he can make fast, prompt and clear-cut decision promptly...but I would say
(in my opinion) he might make decisions he might regret when he is in ANGER mode....

So folks..how about you? Which one do you feel you are? Whichever it is..I hope this sharing gives you a KNOCK-OVER
as it did to me as well...

Somehow, sometimes..things don't always work on what "normal belief" tells us aren't they..haha..points to ponder..

Cheers!

How long it takes for anger to “simmer” down?

As I am writing this, I have just blowed off the fire in my heart, brain, and mind.

 

And how long does it takes for this “FIRE” to simmer down? 1 hr 30 minutes! That is how long it takes for a full-blown fire of mine to be extinguished…I hope I can fare better the next round (not that I hope to be getting angry all the time!)  

 

But sometimes, this kinda of fire happens and if we manage to handle it cool-ly , it does help to build our temperament and overall ..erm should I term it as character?

 

I have failed to simmer down before …and the outcome was very disastrous, as before the fire was put off, before this, I would lambasted someone or something to cool off or to express my anger. The result, a ruined or “injured” relationship or stuff…..

 

How you all do to contain that FIRE that arise, and what ways have you all taken to extinguish it before you take the “regretful” action…

 

What I did today was just stopped any other action (which includes any communication or direct contact with anyone or anything….and that includes e-mail/sms!) so that I won’t do anything which I would regret later…

 

Then I went somewhere for a walk, (a walk in the nature would be good else at shopping centre (without spending that is…don’t ever spend or swipe your card when you are in bad mood..that is what I would not do…coz I will tend to spend unnecessarily …which like drug addict symdrome…temporary relief……I might feel better for awhile but not for long after I incur card debts!!!)

 

Next I do some stretching exercise and did the old yet useful advice by almost all practitioner of stress-reducing experts….TAKE A DEEP BREATH…..so the pre-birth/delivery preparation does helps even after we delivered our babies….it REALLY helps to cool me down a lot!

 

And now at least I can start to think clearly and level-headedness on what is the root cause of the start of the FIRE and what I can do on my part(since we can never expect others to change and we will bring only more fire if we were to concentrate on what others did wrongly….) to improve the situation and to prevent future re-occurrence.

 

So alas, I learnt from this FIRE incident.

 

Folks..do you ever have such FIRE incident? How have you reacted? What have you learnt?

 

 

Care to share? Hear from you all..

 

Cheers for the day!